People definitely have their misconceptions when it comes to people who’ve decided to file for divorce. There are a lot of things out there that are misguided or flat-out wrong, and I’ve got to admit — it took me actually getting a divorce to see it.
Before it touched my life, there was the thought that people who resorted to divorce papers just didn’t give their marriage a fair enough shake. They didn’t fight hard enough, or they took the easy way out. Then one day, during Presidents’ Day weekend, I found myself taking the easy way out, and there was nothing at all easy about it.
Some Common Misconceptions About Divorced People
In a recent article on Huffington Post, the website took aim at some of the most common misconceptions about divorced people. Among the standouts were the ones we’ve mentioned above, as well as these:
Agreed, times four. But for us, the one that really stood out was this: “A lot of people believe they’re better than us, simply because they’re still married.”
Let’s pick apart the logic in that, shall we?
Hit the rewind button. You’re in a marriage — the one that just fell apart, long before it actually did. You have a friend who has gone through a divorce, and now he’s picking up the pieces of his life. He’s growing as a person, balancing his new life as a single man with his career and his duties as a father. You can, in no way, say that you’re better than him. After all, a few months (or years) later, your marriage is over.
Point being: you’re not inferior just because you’re divorced. In fact, in many ways you may be more advanced than the married person. People stay in unhappy unions all the time, or it takes them a while to muster the strength and courage to call it quits. You’ve confronted that obstacle and came out the other side unscathed. Sure, there may be a few scars, but you’re healed (or healing). You’re moving forward. You had the wherewithal to say, this marriage is unfixable, and it’s time to take back my life.
What are some common misconceptions that you’ve heard (or even felt) about divorced people?
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