Recently, the divorced men of Reddit were asked to share their reasons as to why they decided to file for divorce. While the thread held a number of eye-opening responses that are worthy of consideration in evaluating your own reasons for a divorce, here were some of our favorites.
1. Loss Of Trust
“It was when I caught myself photographing street signs on my 25-minute journey home from work so that there would be a timestamp of the entire route to disprove constant accusations that I was cheating on her… After that, I just left.”
2. Cheating
“Came home from a seven-month deployment overseas to find a five-month pregnant wife. I’m no mathematician but I figured that one out.”
3. Lack Of Concern
“I was telling her about how depressed and hopeless I was feeling. I described it partially as an existential crisis. She laughed at me. She literally laughed in my face regarding my pain. That was the day I realized I didn’t really matter to her.”
4. Disagreements On Parenting
“When my wife stated that any children we had would be homeschooled by her (she never graduated high school) and weren’t going to get vaccinations. This was non-negotiable. I was young at the time and honestly, it never occurred to me until we had that discussion how much it meant to me. I (naively) figured it was a given.”
5. Roommating
“The last year together we felt more like roommates than lovers. She stopped being interested in spending time with me, we stopped showering together and began sleeping at opposite times. She was generally unhappy all of the time. I really wanted to salvage the marriage, but I knew it was over when she finally told me that she just didn’t love me.”
While your reasons for filing divorce papers may not fall under one of these headings, it’s important to know why divorce forms are your only solution. If nothing else, it tells you what you can or won’t accept in a future relationship.
REASONS 1, 2, 3, AND 5 TEND TO BE ALL OF THE ONES THAT I AM CURRENTLY EXPERIENCING WITH MY MARRIAGE. COME TO FIND OUT 2 MONTHS BEFORE OUR MARRIAGE SHE WAS GOING BEHIND MY BACK WITH HER EX-HUSBAND AND THEN A WEEK AFTER BEING MARRIED SHE WENT TO THE BAR WITH HIM AND ENDED UP BACK AT HIS HOUSE AND CHEATED ON ME. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT I DONT WANT A DIVORCE. I WANT HER TO BE FAITHFUL BUT I DONT THINK THAT SHE EVER WILL BE. ALSO EVEN AFTER BEING CAUGHT SHE IS STILL GOING TO HIM AND SPENDING TIME WITH HIM BUT SHE ISNT HIDING IT ANYMORE FROM ME BUT SHE IS TRYING TO HIDE IT FROM HIM.