Taking your marriage for granted is inevitable at some point in the life span of a relationship. The results can range from marriage-ending distance to an unwillingness to change your status quo for the better. In other words, you either stay together for years in an unhappy marriage, or you try and fail to break free of the monotony until divorce is your only option. Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way so long as you can recognize the warning signs and take action. Here’s what we suggest.
1. Trade places.
For a week, resolve to switch the duties and responsibilities that you can. Obviously, we’re not talking about your jobs; that probably isn’t possible. But you should look at the contributions that you make to the marriage, make a list for each other, and resolve to handle those things for a 5- to 7-day period. By walking in your spouse’s shoes, you can develop a new respect and appreciation for them.
2. Date.
Dating often goes out the window when kids enter the picture. The constant demands of raising them is absolutely draining, and you need the chance to recharge. But while you may be finding the time to do so on your own, be careful of thinking that’s enough. See, your relationship needs the time to recharge as well, and so that means Kid Time and Me Time needs to exist alongside Couple Time. Schedule something fun where it’s just the two of you and drop your children off at the sitter.
3. Always Have Something to Look Forward To.
This may sound like an extension of number two, but it’s really not. Weekend dates are one thing, and anticipating them can be energizing, but you also need something bigger that you can look forward to. Get out of your routines — even your fun routines — and strive for adventure. While a nice evening at the movies and your favorite restaurant is a positive, it doesn’t actually qualify as adventurous. Take some time to plan a cruise or a vacation to a place you’ve always wanted to go (or don’t get to see enough). Challenge yourselves to step out of your comfort zones, and you’ll be well on your way to keeping the marriage spark alive.
Are you struggling with taking each other for granted? Do you feel like you’re beyond the point of saving things? Let us know how we can help you today.