If you are on the verge of making the decision to file for divorce — or perhaps that’s what your spouse has planned — the next chapter of life can seem a little scary. After all, you are leaving behind the life you know and starting over. It’s almost impossible to do without being changed in some way. Well, we’re here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be doom-and-gloom stuff. In fact, there are often things about being divorced that you’ll prefer. Today we look at four.
1. Fighting
It’s understood that many divorces don’t involve fighting at all. In fact, the reason the couples have decided to file divorce papers is because they don’t feel anything for each other at all. That’s certainly corrosive. But in many marriages on the rocks, fighting is a factor, and once you’re no longer together, that lack of conflict can be a tremendous relief and a boost to your self-esteem and desire to pursue happiness.
2. Not knowing where you stand
Perhaps a bigger issue than fighting in a bad marriage is the issue of not knowing where you stand in your spouse’s eyes. The breakdown of communication that occurs between married people can produce a sort of limbo for one or both parties. At least when your divorce forms are final, you no longer have to guess what the other person is thinking.
3. Wondering where it went wrong
While you’re still married and as you’re going through the divorce, you’ll often ask yourself such questions as “Where did it go wrong?” But after it’s all said and done, you eventually stop with the questions and start focusing on what the future has in store.
4. Fear and apprehension about doing what you have to do
Perhaps the most miserable part of any marriage headed for divorce, is actually coming to terms with what has to be done. It’s made doubly worse if you’re the person filing and triply worse if there are children involved. There is so much to worry about that it consumes you. The key is to take the necessary step. That will put everything in motion so you can all start settling in to your new life paths.
If you’re no longer married, what are some of the things that make you thankful?